Finding God’s Calling on Your Life
Have you ever asked yourself, “What is my purpose?” or “Do I even have a purpose?” If you are like most people, you have probably contemplated these questions. The sad reality is that many people go through life and never find the answer. They find life very unfulfilling and are constantly searching for their place in this world. When we live a life without purpose, we are left wandering through our days without direction or worth.
Many people grow up in a home where they have been abandoned or rejected by their parents. Often times, children grow up feeling worthless because they were never able to live up to their parent’s expectations of perfection. Many have suffered from physical, emotional, verbal or sexual abuse and believe that they have done something to deserve it. Inevitably, these wounds of rejection create a fear of rejection and often self-rejection, leaving one feeling alone and without worth. As a Licensed Pastoral Counselor, I have worked with many adults who know these truths all too well. These adults struggle to see their value because they fail to see that they have a unique, God-given purpose.
Other’s, including myself, grow up in relatively healthy homes yet still struggle with finding their purpose. When I was a teenager, God called me into the ministry of counseling. Although I loved the Lord, I felt this calling must be a mistake. I chose my own way and decided on the business world to make money. I focused on my own desires rather than God’s purpose. Despite my best efforts, God would never bless my business endeavors. After I closed my business, we had a tragedy occur in our family that forced me to seek God harder than I ever had. Nearly twenty years after the fact, He graciously and gently reminded me of the calling He had put on my life as a teenager.
Matthew 11:29-30 says, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden light.” Have you ever wondered why Jesus spoke about His “yoke”? Jesus grew up learning the art of carpentry and yokes were the primary product He crafted. Jesus would carefully measure and create each yoke to fit each ox so that they would be as effective and efficient in their work as possible. Just as Jesus created these yokes for oxen, He has also formed us to be the most effective and efficient for His purpose. We were specifically designed for the unique purpose He has planned for us.
When Jesus says, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light,” the word “easy” doesn’t translate to the opposite of hard, but rather “well-fitting.” What this scripture tells us is that Jesus’ calling on our life is well-fitting because He designed us specifically for this purpose.
When we were created, God breathed into each of us a unique temperament, while we were still in our mother’s womb. According to Richard Arno, Ph.D., author of “Temperament Theory”, “Temperament is the inborn part of man that determines how he reacts to people, places and things. Temperament pinpoints our perception of ourselves and the people who love us. It is also a determining factor in how well we handle the stresses and pressures of life.” God combines our temperament with our emotional and physical makeup, our spiritual maturity, and our unique gifts, to fulfill the calling that He has on our life.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:13-16
In our counseling practice, we often have counselee’s complete a temperament assessment to help them better understand who God has created them to be. We combine this knowledge with allowing God to heal the wounds of the past. This process, known as Temperament Therapy, brings people closer in their relationship with Christ and helps remove the obstacles that keep them from hearing God’s purpose for their life. God is always speaking to us, but we are not always in a place to hear Him. To hear Him, we must truly seek Him through prayer, dive into His word, and turn every aspect of our life over to Him. By being obedient to our calling, we bring glory to God and allow Him to complete His purpose in us.
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