You Can Find Healing after Your Heart Is Broken

Here are five considerations when on the path to healing your broken heart:

One of the most necessary first steps after a painful breakup is to stop and feel your emotions. Your heart might still be experiencing all the sentiments associated with rejection, aloneness, injustice, and possibly betrayal. It can be tempting to push down the clamor of their voices.

But emotions cannot be shipped out or silenced. They need to be validated and accepted so you can eventually hold them up to the light and not flinch.

You will feel many emotional changes throughout a single day. The graph below is just a sample of what someone might feel.

If you keep avoiding them, it can affect your physical health with symptoms like chest pain, anxiety, depression, and blood circulation issues. Focusing on recovery with the help of a licensed pastoral counselor is always a healthy approach.

Your heart hurts because you loved, and that is never something to be ashamed of. Allow yourself to cry, to feel anger, to appreciate the good times you had together, and to grieve what once was. Feeling your emotions is never a sign of weakness but of courage. It is what will begin your journey of healing.

You’ll probably be surprised to find that the more you acknowledge and accept the presence of such strong emotions, the more you’ll find your heart settling and ready to listen to the hope and wisdom the Holy Spirit sends.

God spoke to you before you were in any relationship, and he will speak to the essence of who you are — the one he created — again.

Though uncomfortable, change is not an enemy and can even be the key to a better future. Looking at it from this perspective with the help of a counselor, you can use change as an opportunity to grow into a newer, more healed, and wiser version of yourself and feel ready to flow into a new season of life.

It’s very hard to try and restore your broken heart alone, so choose your support system. Whether that’s family, friends, a support group, or your church, find people who will listen, understand, and cheer you on. In a time like this, you need people to see your value and walk with you until you find practical and emotional stability again.

These are individuals who see your worth, remind you of your strength, and walk beside you as you find your footing. There’s so much strength and peace in the nurture of company, and in time, you might even be ready to pay it forward.

Christian therapy can lead you on a profound healing journey. When you sit with an unbiased Christian counselor, you can feel safe knowing you will not be judged as you share what is going on in your heart and mind. Professional counseling with someone who shares your beliefs is never something to be ashamed of; it is an incredibly powerful tool you can direct at your heartache and slowly walk out of your pain.

Doing Christian counseling, with its blend of faith in Jesus and psychological understanding, is a better way to heal as it aligns your faith with your heart and mind to promote your full well-being — something secular therapy won’t necessarily do.

““Hope is not defined by the absence of hardship. Rather, hope is found in God’s grace in the midst of hardship. Hope is found in his promise to give us a future.” ― Stuart Scott, American sportscaster.

When your mental health is good, your physical health and heart health improve too. Depression, anxiety, and stress levels often dial down during sessions with a professional counselor because of their compassion for your struggle and the steps they can recommend you act on.

Though reconciliation has been declared impossible, life moves forward. As you process the wounds of your broken heart with a licensed pastoral counselor and apply God’s healing salve, you’ll find yourself beginning to feel braver and more open to considering that the future could be good.

You’ll accept that you are not defined by your past relationships and that by celebrating the good in those years of life but letting go of the bad, you can focus on setting new personal and professional goals.

By investing in compassion for yourself and self-growth, you can find joy in the many small moments of accomplishment — because every small step still gets you to where you want to be.

You are more than the hurt of your past. You were created by God in a meaningful way — with everything you need to receive and give his love, strength, and hope. While he has never promised that heartache won’t occur, he has promised that he will always be with you and in you as you go through it and out the other side.

Yes, healing requires vulnerability, but by allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you’re allowing the breaks in your heart to be filled with his gold. When you embrace him and let him flood your soul with his love and compassion, you’ll find your well-being restored to where you can do far more than you thought possible.

You might fall in Pilgrim’s Slough of Despond or listen to Mr Worldly Wiseman and veer off course, but God is with you. No matter how much hurt you feel today, as you walk forward with a Christian therapist and piece by piece let God carry your load, you’ll find direction, receive grace, step out of your graveclothes, and reach the Celestial City of wholeness in him.

Book your introductory in-office or video session with one of Head to Heart’s pastoral counselors. We look forward to helping you find healing and peace as you move on from this difficult time in your life.